1. What do you think of the structure and organization of the book? Does the order of the chapters make sense? The order of the topics within each chapter? Does the book have a natural, logical flow?
2. Is everything clear and easy to understand? Do all of the metaphors and hypothetical examples make sense? Were there any sentences or sections that you had to read a second time to understand?
3. This is meant to be a mainstream self-help book that people with no background in psychology can read. Do any parts of the book sound too technical, or more like a psychology textbook? Is there anything that needs to be explained more clearly?
4. This book is meant for people who have not necessarily read blogs about things like affirmative consent, microaggressions, etc. Are there any parts of the book that reference things that everyone would not necessarily know? I want to make sure the book does not sound exclusive, like it is only for a subculture of people rather than a mainstream audience.
5. This is meant to be an advice book, with the message of, “Here is what you can do to be more validating.” Does every section explain clear, specific ways that you can be more validating? Do you feel like the book is action-oriented, that with each section, you gained concrete advice that you could apply to your everyday interactions with people? Are there any sections that are lacking solutions to the problems addressed?
6. Is it always clear to you why the issues discussed are important? Are there places where I should use stronger examples of how a particular issue is hurting people?
7. Are any parts of the book repetitive?
8. Are there things I touched upon briefly that I should write more about?
9. Are there things I discuss as universal truths where I should be clearer about individual differences?
10. I want the focus of this book to be on how you treat other people, rather than putting the responsibility on people to protect themselves. Is this the tone of the book? Are there any traces of victim blaming?
11. I am trying to market this book to the masses, not just a small group of people who already care deeply about these issues. Does this book succeed at staying true to the purpose while also being friendly, entertaining, and generally pleasant and fun to read? Are there parts where the book sounds accusatory, or where you felt like you were being attacked? Are there parts when I went too overboard in trying to be friendly when I should have sounded more serious about the issues? (I’m not sure what the right balance is here, so any input is welcome).
12. Technical writing advice is always welcome, as well as errors in spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
13. We all have different experiences of invalidation, and I’ve drawn a lot on my own experiences for this book. Are there any personal experiences you have had with invalidation that weren’t addressed in the book, that I could add?
14. If we didn’t know each other and you weren’t doing it as a favor to me, would you honestly buy this book, recommend it to other people, and write a positive review? If not, what would change your mind?